One of the many things girls claim to want in a man is “honesty.”

If you’re like I once was, you probably take this to mean “I should tell my girl absolutely every single thing that ever happens to me so she’ll know there’s no secrets between us.”

And, if you’re like I once was, you’ve probably been in relationships with girls where you did, in fact, tell them all the things that happen to you.

Which means, if you’re like I once was… you probably do NOT have a girlfriend.

Could it be that all that honesty was actually HURTING your relationship with a girl?

I remember a few years ago, I had a friend of mine in a dilemma. He had recently asked a woman to be his girlfriend, but he was guilt-ridden because, during the “we’re just talking” phase, another girl had come up to him at a party and kissed him.

He felt SO guilty about his new girlfriend not knowing this that he was thinking about telling her.

So, what did I tell him to do?

Easy – I said, “Of course you should tell her – if you do, she’ll know how honest of a guy you are and believe anything you say to her from now on!  You’ll be establishing trust! Heck, she may even THANK you for telling her!”

Man, oh man, what a moron I was!

Sure enough, he took my advice.  A few hours later, he was calling me on my phone, crying his eyes out while yelling:

“BUT I TOLD HER THE TRUTH!! WHY DID SHE GET MAD AT ME!! IT’S NOT LIKE I’M KISSING THAT OTHER GIRL NOW!!”

If I had known then what I know now, I would have given him the opposite advice.  Instead of telling him to blah blah blah about this kiss from the past, I would have told him to keep his mouth shut, and that it was “none of her dang business” who she kissed in the past.

On the other hand, if you’re in the business of LOSING girls, it’s best to tell your girl about these types of things.  Anything you can think of that may cause her to see you in a different light, you should tell her if you’re wanting to LOSE her.

What kinds of things am I talking about?

1. Any incidents where you, as the “innocent bystander,” are getting kissed, grouped, hugged up, hit on, or having “special favors” done for you by another girl.
2. Any parts of your past that, while distant, will make a girl question being with you.  So yes, you should tell her about that time you tortured a cat named Fluffy, or how girls used to make fun of you for peeing on yourself when you got excited.
3. Any unresolved feelings you may have about an ex-girlfriend.  Hey, she wants you to be honest, right? Of course you should tell her how you still have “feelings” for a previous lover – all girlfriends love hearing about THAT!

Bottom line: if you’re trying to keep a girl around, there ARE certain things it’s okay to NOT tell her.  This doesn’t mean you should lie to her – it just means you don’t have to mention it.  Not telling her these things doesn’t make you a liar – and besides, do you REALLY want to know every single caveat of her past life??

-Non Juan

Relationships can be a hard thing for many guys to get into.

Part of it is due to our egos.  Once we develop a perspective of how to get into relationships, we tend to stick to whatever mantra it is that we believe will help snag us a girlfriend.

Even if that mantra turns out to be pure baloney.

Unfortunately, there are many, MANY myths and ideas us guys have fallen for over the years when it comes to how to attract women.  As young boys, we are taught by mothers, aunts, grandmothers, and other women around us that we have to act in certain ways and/or do certain things to get women.  And we believe them because, at the end of the day, ALL men want to attract a woman.

How many of you have heard the following advice from women in your life:

*”If you want to obtain a girlfriend, you have to treat her like a queen”
*”Make sure you buy a girl flowers – that’ll let her know how much you care about her.”
*”Never curse in front of a lady – they won’t respect you if you do.”

Now, how many of you have gone out with a girl, treated her like a queen, bought her flowers and made sure to be on your absolute best behavior…

…and have later seen this girl going out with someone who treated her like crap, never bought her ANYTHING, and cursed more times than a sailor?

CLEARLY, THERE IS A DISCONNECT.

Does this mean you should start acting like a “bad boy?”  Should you forgo your current self in order to better attract women?

The answer is “no…” and “yes.”

What I mean is: “no,” you should not feel the need to suddenly start treating all the girls you’re attracted to like a jerk would.

At the same time, you SHOULD start questioning why some of the things you’re doing in your attempts to ATTRACT women… are getting you nowhere.

There’s a great saying I always like to tell people: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting the same results.”

Does this sound like YOU when it comes to your dating life? Are you constantly going through the same dating patterns and ending up with the same results?

If so, the best chance you have at being more successful is to start doing the OPPOSITE of what you’re doing now.

Of course, in order to do that, you have to first understand why it is the things you are currently doing to get into relationships are actually PREVENTING you from doing so.

THAT’S WHERE I STEP IN.

My name is Non Juan.  As you’ll be able to see from some of the blogs/videos on this site, I used to be pretty bad with women.

Okay, I’ll admit it – I was REAL bad with women.

In fact, I could barely muster up the courage to talk to them.  I would either get tongue tied, or suck up to them too much.

Ugh.  Kinda pathetic, actually.

Luckily, I had a mentor – the Archbishop Don “Magic” Juan, school me on how to handle myself and the situation surrounding me when I got around women.

Now, I’m actually able to get women to go out with me, without reverting back to all the things I used to do.

BUT…

Since I have more experience in getting dumped than getting women, I’ve decided to help all the guys out there by explaining to them – in DETAIL – why all the things they think will get them women…

…actually does the OPPOSITE.

Stay tuned to this web site, as I will be giving all you guys out there a crash course in how to LOSE women.  Along the way, you’ll be able to get a better understanding of what does NOT work with women, so that you can figure out ways to do the OPPOSITE.

That’s all for now!

-Non Juan

It’s “The Non Juan’s Guide to Dating!” Dating Tip #1: It’s okay to give a girl a compliment… BUT…

Umm… Errr.. If this is the story of a “Perfect Gentleman” – well… You tell us what you think?????

Greetings, Non Juan fans!

As you all know, I’ve been on the hunt for a girlfriend for a while now – and by “a while”,  I mean “ever since I slid out the womb.”  It was the last time I was anywhere NEAR a woman’s… well, ya know – and I’ve been trying to get back ever since.

Why the seemingly desperate chase for my one-true love?  Girls bring so much to a guy’s life, and when I see other guys with girlfriends, I feel like I’m missing out on something.

In an attempt to explain myself, I will, from time to time, share with you my reasons as to why I want a girl in my life – and not just because they’ll pay for my meals and drive me places (though it would be nice to get taken some place from time to time…)

REASON WHY GIRLS ARE AWESOME #1: THEY TAKE CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU’RE SICK

Recently, my friend Harry dared me to jump into a pool of water.  This wouldn’t normally be such a bad idea, if it weren’t for the fact that (a) it’s wintertime, (b) it was raining outside, and (c) I’m allergic to certain types of chlorine.

However, I didn’t want to look like a punk in front of my friend, so I dived in.  Next thing I know, I’m breaking out in hives and sweating in 45 degree weather.

Needless to say, I was sick.

During my week-long sickness, I had no one to take care of me – not even my parents (despite the fact that my apartment is located in their backyard.  They even had me quaranteened!)  While making frequent trips back and forth to throw up in my toilet, I kept thinking to myself: “Man, I wish I had a girlfriend here to take care of me…”

Girls are such nurturing people.  No matter how sick you get, they will usually be there whenever you need to be taken care of.  I could have been blowing snot out of every orafice of my body, with burning red eyes and dried-up drool on my face, and – assuming the girl i was dating cared about me – she would’ve been there to wipe me up, get me some eye drops, and put a cup under my mouth to collect my spit.

But did I get any of that help?? NOOOO.  Instead, I was forced to drag myself out of bed, attempt to cook my own meals (which was made even worse since I can’t cook - i burned 3 bowls of soup!), take my own pills (which were mixed up in the scissors drawer – I ended up cutting myself), and draw my own baths (I fell asleep during one of my bathing sessions, and ended up looking like a shrunk raisin.

Having to do all that definitely made me appreciate the nurturing aspect a woman brings to a relationship.  If only I could find one who would do all that stuff for me without being completely grossed out (at my sickness AND at the sight of me), I’d be SO happy.  Luckily I eventually got better – I was THIS CLOSE to calling Dr. Murray to fix me up.  I think he’s on trial for something now, though…

-Non Juan

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Well, Snoop Dogg may be a huge hip hop star with plenty of women, money, cars, houses, jewelry, friends,uh… you get it. But, I bet I can count up the change in your pocket faster than he can! Ok, so I guess he has EVERYTHING that I don’t including a hit song last year called “Sensual Seduction.”

Since I don’t really know anything about that subject, I decided to do a song about a subject that I actually DO KNOW lots about. It kinda deals with that special part of the male anatomy and something tells me that I should not be sharing this with all the ladies, but ~ what the heck – Here is my new music video for Erectile Dysfunction from my 909s and Heart Flatlines CD (available on iTunes). BTW I am offering it as a ringtone for **FREE** on my homepage http://NonJuan.com for a limited time! YEAH!!!

Also available on my album (get it on iTunes TODAY!), “909s and Heart Flatlines”

Once again, it’s time for me to give out some unfounded Non Juan dating advice!  Remember: if you have any dating/relationship questions you’d like for me to answer, send an email to ASK@NonJuan.com, or call me toll-free at 877-NON-JUAN and leave your question on my answering machine!

Today’s Non Juan Dating Tip:

USE BEGGING TO MAKE HER DATE YOU!

Asking a girl out can be a nerve-racking experience for any guy.  They might look at you funny, say no, or – if you’re someone like me – hit you over the head with their sub sandwich while sicking their dogs on you.

If you ask a girl out and she says no, does it really mean she won’t go out with you? Well, most people would probably say “yes.”  And who are these people, you ask?

QUITTERS, that’s who!

A girl saying “no” to you simply means one thing: you haven’t (a) asked her out enough times to wear her down enough to say “yes”, and (b) you’re not asking in the right way.

And what exactly IS the “right way” to ask a girl out?”

BEGGING!

That’s right, fellas – if you want a girl to go out with you, all you have to do is get on your knees, grovel at her feet, and ask her over and over again to go out with you.  (Bonus points if you can muster up some tears – that’s what I call the “advanced” stages of begging!)

You may think doing this will make you appear desperate, aloof, and unsuave – and it does – but most importantly: IT WILL GET YOU A DATE.

Why?

Most girls hate going out with guys they don’t have a thing for, but they hate the idea of hurting someone’s feelings even MORE.  When she sees how willing you are to take her out for a free meal and/or movie (or both), she’ll eventually shrug her shoulders, look at you with those sexy eyes of hers, and say:

“Eh, why not? If he’s paying, I guess I can suffer through spending a few hours with him.”

Sure, she won’t really be going out with you because she likes you.  Sure, she’ll probably still be repulsed by the fact that she has to spend time with you for x-amount of time.  And sure, the fact that you begged and came across as desperate and needy may cause her to want to stay away from you after you take her out.

But at least you got to take her out!

That’s all for today, Non Juan fans! Remember: if you’ve got a dating/relationship question, email me at ASK@NonJuan.com or call 877-NON-JUAN (666-5826) today!

-Non Juan

Normally I try to post up my Non Juan scribbles early in the day.  However, I’ve been hiding underneath my bed for the last 6 hours trying to get certain images and sounds out of my head.

And what images and sounds were they?  One answer: RIHANNA.

AAAAAA! AAAAAA! AAAAAA! THERE SHE IS AGAIN!! (Okay, Non Juan, calm down, just calm down…)

See, I’m a BIG fan of Rihanna.  I’m pretty much a fan of any girl who can (a) sing with a studio-enhanced voice (robot voices are SO sexy) and (b) find beats that make me wanna do my Non Juan dance in the club.  And she’s had both for many, many years.

She’s also not a bad-looking girl.  From her second album to the last one, “Good Girls Gone Bad,” she’s managed to evolve her style yet still seem wholesome at times.

So, when I heard she had a NEW song coming out today, I was UBER-excited.  I set my alarm clock for 7:30 A.M. and… well, okay, so the song didn’t actually debut until 11:23, (8:23 California time), so I spent an hour yelling out the window at the girl who lives next door to me, begging her to let me take her on a date.  I don’t think she heard me, though I think it may be because she painted her windows black…

Anyway, the time finally came for me to hear the song AND see the promo picture for it.  And this is what I heard:

Rihanna’s New Single, “Russian Roulette”

AAAAAA! AAAAAAA!  MAKE IT GO AWAY!!

The song is just so darn SAD.  And MOODY.  And, uh… well, it scared me so bad, I had to change my underwear at least 3 times (note: I wear 3 pairs of underwear at all times).

And as for the song cover photo… Is it just me, or did Rihanna fall into the Devil’s clothing closet and tell her to pick out a wardrobe?!?

I mean, LOOK at her!  She’s all tied up in barbed wire… she looks almost naked… and she’s wearing an eye patch!  If she were a pirate I’d be drooling right now (I’ve always wanted a sexy pirate lady to make me walk the plank).

However, there’s something about this photo that makes her seem scarier than finding a new freckle on your body and not knowing where it came from!

Oh, Rihanna, Rihanna, Rihanna!  I had such a HUGE crush on you!  You were my second favorite girl I’d hope to be sued by in court one day (number one is still you, Tila Tequila – tell your attorney I can meet on Thursday!).  Now, every time I think about the song or the picture, it’ll be like re-visiting a haunted house all over again!

That’s all for now, everybod… AAAAA! WHAT THE HECK IS THAT?!?!?

Oh wait – it’s just a freckle.  Whew, that was close.  I wonder where it came from…

-Non Juan

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