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It’s time for NON JUAN VIDEO MONDAY!!

Today, I reveal to you the SECRET to winning back an ex-girlfriend!  If you’ve recently been dumped by the girl of your dreams, I have the absolute BESTEST dating tip you could ever hear…

Watch the video, and don’t forget to listen for the question of the day at the end.  Leave your comments below!

-Non Juan

On Monday’s Non Juan video, “Can Using the Phone Make You LOSE Women,” I talked about the consequences of calling a girl too much.

I asked YOU – no, not you, but the guy behind you – to leave your thoughts on the subject.  Lo and behold, a few people commented on the video.  So, I decided to film another video sharing some of these people’s thoughts!

Check it out, and leave your OWN thoughts about this topic below!

-Non Juan

Non Juan’s book, “The Non Juan’s Guide to LOSING The Girl of Your Dreams: Why Everything Men THINK They Know About Dating is WRONG,” coming soon!

One of the many things girls claim to want in a man is “honesty.”

If you’re like I once was, you probably take this to mean “I should tell my girl absolutely every single thing that ever happens to me so she’ll know there’s no secrets between us.”

And, if you’re like I once was, you’ve probably been in relationships with girls where you did, in fact, tell them all the things that happen to you.

Which means, if you’re like I once was… you probably do NOT have a girlfriend.

Could it be that all that honesty was actually HURTING your relationship with a girl?

I remember a few years ago, I had a friend of mine in a dilemma. He had recently asked a woman to be his girlfriend, but he was guilt-ridden because, during the “we’re just talking” phase, another girl had come up to him at a party and kissed him.

He felt SO guilty about his new girlfriend not knowing this that he was thinking about telling her.

So, what did I tell him to do?

Easy – I said, “Of course you should tell her – if you do, she’ll know how honest of a guy you are and believe anything you say to her from now on!  You’ll be establishing trust! Heck, she may even THANK you for telling her!”

Man, oh man, what a moron I was!

Sure enough, he took my advice.  A few hours later, he was calling me on my phone, crying his eyes out while yelling:

“BUT I TOLD HER THE TRUTH!! WHY DID SHE GET MAD AT ME!! IT’S NOT LIKE I’M KISSING THAT OTHER GIRL NOW!!”

If I had known then what I know now, I would have given him the opposite advice.  Instead of telling him to blah blah blah about this kiss from the past, I would have told him to keep his mouth shut, and that it was “none of her dang business” who she kissed in the past.

On the other hand, if you’re in the business of LOSING girls, it’s best to tell your girl about these types of things.  Anything you can think of that may cause her to see you in a different light, you should tell her if you’re wanting to LOSE her.

What kinds of things am I talking about?

1. Any incidents where you, as the “innocent bystander,” are getting kissed, grouped, hugged up, hit on, or having “special favors” done for you by another girl.
2. Any parts of your past that, while distant, will make a girl question being with you.  So yes, you should tell her about that time you tortured a cat named Fluffy, or how girls used to make fun of you for peeing on yourself when you got excited.
3. Any unresolved feelings you may have about an ex-girlfriend.  Hey, she wants you to be honest, right? Of course you should tell her how you still have “feelings” for a previous lover – all girlfriends love hearing about THAT!

Bottom line: if you’re trying to keep a girl around, there ARE certain things it’s okay to NOT tell her.  This doesn’t mean you should lie to her – it just means you don’t have to mention it.  Not telling her these things doesn’t make you a liar – and besides, do you REALLY want to know every single caveat of her past life??

-Non Juan

It’s NON JUAN VIDEO Monday!!

Today, Non Juan lets all the fellas out there know about the dangers of calling a girl too much.  What do YOU think about Non Juan’s views on phone calling? Leave your thoughts below!

-Non Juan

From time to time, I like to show video examples of a Non Juan in action.

Sure, I may have been bad with women, but there are still TONS of men out there who know how to make women feel even MORE awkward on dates than I did!

Here’s an example from an episode of “Blind Date” (the oh-so popular show from the late 90s/early 00′s) of a guy named Lou doing his best to impress a girl.  As you’ll be able to see from the video, he’s doing everything he can to peak the girl’s interest.

Little does he realize that he’s actually displaying some too familiar Non Juan traits:

1. He’s trying too hard to please her;
2. He’s agreeing with everything she says; and
3. He’s asking her questions that give off his insecurities about himself.

Watch the video, and share your comments about Lou and his night out below!

Above: Lou and his desperate attempt to make a connection… with a girl that’s clearly NOT feeling him.

-Non Juan